Ok, here we go and it's Peter writing again. After 8 months me and my new girlfriend got married on the Åland boat, and we were a party of about 40 people with friends and family. The wedding dance on the big dance floor with two guards watching us was pretty cool.
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ShareAfter this, she started asking if we were going to have a child together, GULP. That was the one question I didn't want to hear, because I only wanted one child. I already had one child and she had two, so we had three little ones already and that alone is hard. NOOOOOO!!!
Innehållsförteckning
Sun or snow
My wife's intuition told her that after weddings come children, and then this guy with his responsibility will never leave me, right? Now the persuasion began and after a while I said YES.
Two weeks passed and I said NO, and she started the pill again. She continued the persuasion and I said YES again, and when I was about to say NO again. After a while the happy news came that I was going to be a father again. Yiiiippiiieee, LOVE CHILD, GOLDEN TIMES, hmmm, FIND FIVE ERRORS.
Thinking before
If one partner has doubts about having children, should the other partner accept or continue to impose their will? If one partner is unsure, should they have children? Asking such questions when you are tired or vulnerable is a woman's trick, isn't it? I became a father for the second time in my life and we became 4 children in the family. My son Robin half-time and three full-time because my wife's ex didn't care about the children at all, and was probably more interested in other shit in life.
I need to create and be on my own
With a wife at home and 4 children, you have to start working more, right? There was no money all the time, so I had to take private jobs in the evenings. I was now working 12 to 16 hours a day and missed a lot of the children's upbringing. On weekends, I rebuilt my home and learned how to marble and cast stucco, because I had my own dream of creating a baroque-style apartment.
I knew what I wanted to do at home and it was pure relaxation from everything else, and at the same time I got to see my family, but it was still too much. When I was sick, I went to work as usual, and one time I had a fever of 40 degrees for a week and suppressed it with pills. I fainted on the bathroom floor one Friday night when my body told me off and my wife had to punch me in the chest and face to get me going, I was told.
Money, it's a hit
We got several requests to work and this time it was evening and some night. An Iraqi guy had bought the Palladium cinema, which would become "Heaven" in Stockholm. Today it is Casino Cosmopol and he would spend many millions on the project.
We got up at 5 in the morning and worked with our regular company for the municipality, and we were 4 guys who went to the disco and worked between 6 in the evening and 12 at night for 6 months. I can't believe we could do it, but the money was coming in.
We would get 80 kronor an hour when we worked there on a regular basis and invoice the rest of the hourly rate when everything was finished. It was completed and I sent an invoice for somewhere around 500,000 excluding VAT. The owner said that he couldn't pay and then I said that I would proceed with the invoice.
The next night the phone rang and it was a guy threatening my whole family if I didn't pay the bill. I found out more and apparently he had done this to many others, and he had two "Hitmen" that he paid if anyone went against him. I was really pissed off but realised I wasn't going to get a penny. This was just one of ten over the years who cheated us out of large sums of money.
Floorball
I continued to build on my dream at home and I became a floorball coach in between extra jobs for 20 13-year-olds. The association had strange rules and only thought about having fun and profits were not needed.
The young people were disappointed and thought about leaving and "what do I do now?". Me, my younger brother and some friends opened our own association and we took all the young people with us, because this is where floorball should be played.
Now it's going fast
Kallhäll IF and we also started a girls' team while we were in the gas. Are we satisfied here? Not a chance! Here we will behave nicely. Yellow and blue, of course! A logo with horns, of course! Embroidery and damn how good they look. Design is life.
Wasn't it clever of me to take on even more and do it all before I die? WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME? I don't know that N-word just JAAAA! I should have a quarter with a shrink.
There is no way out
Meanwhile, after Billie, my second son, was born, my wife collapsed in pain more and more. We went for many years wondering what was wrong. She went on heavier
drugs from the medical centre and eventually could not walk on her own. She got a permobile and at home she got a walker. Her medication became so heavy that she didn't recognise me from time to time and it was really scary. After many more years, she came to specialists in Strängnäs who did a check on her.
The pelvis had not closed after the last birth, hence the pain radiating up my back. During these many years I probably slept 5 hours a night, worked, took care of 20 young people several times a week, the company, the children, the home and my wife.
Giving up is not an option
During a match with the floorball team, the team did not follow my tactics. We were down 0-2 and I was shouting during the game, and suddenly it stopped. Something broke and I can't say today what it was, but I went and sat in the crowd and was completely silent.
Everyone wondered what I was doing but it must have been some reaction from my body. We won 3-2 but I didn't care. For a week it was like someone was sitting on my chest and I could hardly breathe.
It was the first time in many years that I was not working and for this, no pills could help. This was the first time in my life that my body said STOP! I still don't understand how it could protest because I wanted to move forward, so you'll have to hang on for another 50 years, I thought. I still think the same way today. IT WILL GO!!!
I wish I had more photos from this period of my life. They exist but not with me but there will be new "Happy Fridays". This was between 31-42 years (1991-2002) and what did you do then or tell us about your week, because everyone needs positivity. Come on!
Next week: More floorball, more work and a girl called Helena came into my life.
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anita wåg agrimanaki says:
Wow, Peter. I hope you are not taking on too much now and that you have learnt that you also need to take it easy. Hugs!
04 November 2016 - 6:48
Eva - People in the Street says:
"Full on, unconscious" seemed to be your thing. What an intense life you've led.
During that period I sold my (big, I still had the pony) horse, lived for a couple of years in Östersund and went Telemark and climbed mountains every spare moment in Sweden and Europe. Drove an old Saab 99 to the south of France and Austria on climbing trips. The car boiled as soon as we stopped and the French went on strike against everything when we were there. Took a diving licence and dived in Mexico.
Built a house in Gammelstad and had two children. Started working at the company that still supports me today.
Have a nice weekend!
04 November 2016 - 7:54
Ninnie says:
Don't forget to take it easy now....
04 November 2016 - 8:28
Lisa - livet från den ljusa sidan says:
Wow, what a story! And what a pace!
Well, I'm in that period right now, but 3 kids, a lot of job advancement and a rather enjoyable free time - despite being busy - probably sums it up pretty well. But my busy doesn't seem to be the same as your busy. And then people often think mine is crazy. 😛
04 November 2016 - 8:34
Lena - gott för själen says:
Hehe, your life would be enough for a whole book!
During these years I was on trial two with the 1st and 2nd dad, divorce, meet the 3rd dad, have the 3rd, get married. I worked, took care of three small children, dog, home and the husband's bookkeeping and other administration, while he worked around the clock. Pretty intense too, I can say.
The best part of the week is that I was able to work from home four out of five days! Yay!
Have a nice Friday!
Hug Lena
04 November 2016 - 8:36
Kors och Tvärs says:
If you've hit the wall once, it's very easy to do it again, so take care of yourself even if the company is going full steam ahead with reports and photo shoots. The line between fun hard work and pressure is often a fine line. I know.....
04 November 2016 - 8:50
Peter Bergström says:
Anita Wåg Agrimanaki: Hi! I still work a lot, but I get to sleep nowadays, so I'm making progress.
Eva People in the street: Those are very funny things you write about with lots of adventure. I am catching up now and so I get my dose of joy.
Hi lisa- Life from the bright side: I know what stress it is with several small children and it is important that both parents are healthy, otherwise there will be real chaos at home and in the economy. You become terribly hardened with time so nothing becomes impossible. Have a good week.
Lena - Good for the soul. Hi Lena! This fixing with children in different places takes a lot of strength and energy, even all the hassle with exes. I think you were very busy yourself during these years. Nice to see a "tjoho" because it came from the heart and pure joy. Thank you for it:-). Nice week.
Lennart: Helena and I probably work at least 12 hours a day every day of the week. The good thing is that I get to sleep all night, which used to be a luxury. People can do more than you think and I'm used to working hard, so it doesn't bother me. Have a great weekend Lennart.
04 November 2016 - 9:08
Steve says:
Yes, how did you manage? Many people usually write that they have undergone the "hard school of life". A bit pathetic sometimes I have thought. But, now I have run into someone who can really say that. You, if anyone, have completed the "Hard School of Life". With top marks, too.
I also worked like a maniac in 1991-2001. But, I just worked, I didn't have children, a sickly wife, an extra job and a floorball team to take care of.
And I was never threatened like you, even though I worked in a prison environment all the time.
In 1997 I divorced and soon found Big Love D whom I married in May 2001. One month to the day after the wedding, I had a stroke that changed our lives completely.
The past week has been tough as I am adjusted after a fall. Reading your post today has just made me feel better and I hope to be back in "good old form" soon.
So, thanks for a great start to the day!
04 November 2016 - 9:09
Peter Bergström says:
Across the board: Hi Anette! What was much more stressful in the past were times that had to be met everywhere. leaving children to schools, meetings, next job etc. in queues and everything that constantly came in between. We work a lot today but in a completely different way with very little stress, so I am on the right track. Have a cosy Friday.
04 November 2016 - 9:18
Peter Bergström says:
Steve: It makes me happy to read your post, so thank you. You have had a really tough journey and you have also worked and struggled a lot, I can read between the lines. Then your life has changed in a way that no ordinary person can understand. All your thoughts and thoughts after a stroke and ending up in a wheelchair, phew, now we are talking about the hard school of life mentally. I think you are a fantastic person and how you and your wife take life. I send a hug to you both and wish you a cosy weekend.
04 November 2016 - 9:28
Lennart says:
Oh, oh, oh, oh. You really deserve a life of tranquillity now!
04 November 2016 - 8:43
Geddfish says:
Well, you have my admiration and you have my horror!
I think mine in those years think you are immortal. Thank you for sharing, and for calming down 😉.
I have also struggled with the NO word. Sometimes you numb certain things by taking on more work.
Once upon a time I worked full time (sometimes with a fever) had 4 children, 2 of whom were sick, two summers of summer children, unionised, ran Super10 and demonstrated, lived in the countryside with lots of animals...
My body said one day LEDINFLAMMATION, so penicillin for a few months.
When my youngest daughter's values plummeted, I was able to say the word NO. A turning point in everything.
Have a Happy Friday, you Peter and your Helena and everyone who reads 😀.
04 November 2016 - 9:44
Ama de casa says:
Gosh... No wonder your body said stop! Very scary with those threats too...
91 - 02 I was stuck in the squirrel wheel, interspersed with trips that brightened my life. I enjoyed my job as a programmer as well, but in the end it felt like I was just stomping around...
Have a great Friday!
04 November 2016 - 9:54
Peter Bergström says:
Geddfish: Oh how we all struggle, and we take life for granted, and we only get sick when we are really old, NOT. Sometimes we are thrown into getting everyday life and bills together, and have to work ourselves to death. Then when a tragedy happens, we wonder if it's too late. That's why we need to appreciate the good things in life so much more, to make up for the bad. Thank you for sharing and I wish you a cosy evening. Hugs
04 November 2016 - 10:10
Peter Bergström says:
Ama De Casa: I've met a lot of scary people in my life, but threatening my family took the cake. A lot of money was involved and I wish him a little hell in life, that's it! Some people stay in the wheel all their lives and I understand them, it actually becomes a calmer life and you have time for other things I still want to do so much and I want to move forward. The future and digitalisation are so exciting and I want to be part of it. I will write about the new era and what comes after my story has ended. I see your picture in the pool and already long for the warmth. Have a nice weekend:-)
04 November 2016 - 10:25
Ann-Sofie och Lennart says:
Interesting reading every Friday. You have had an eventful life Peter....it could be a book.
04 November 2016 - 10:59
Anonymous says:
You never cease to be amazed at us humans, why should it be so difficult to say no? I am very touched by your story Peter, I know how it is with a lot of work, several children and someone who is sick. We got our third boy in 97 and when he starts at preschool at the age of two, it turns out that he is not like other children ... all our sons have been late in talking, but here it was due to autism, we knew nothing about this, then add that he has adhd as well, and that we worked full time if not more, so we kept on for a few years, of course it cracked, and as usual in a family it is the other children who suffer, or as in our case, outgoing, with school problems as a result! Then I went down in time and the husband got a partner, it began to brighten ... but the wounds are deep, and had we known then what we know today, we might have had a happier family, but you can not do more than you can handle! Looking forward to next Friday? Today we are happy that the youngest son is thriving at his folk high school, the middle son is backpacking in Vietnam and the big house with storage and everything else is starting to be finished! I myself have a relationship with the employment agency and it goes like that ... but luckily, it's Friday and probably the rolling motor home will go on a trip? Hope Freedom gets repaired soon! Hugs to you both, take it easy!
04 November 2016 - 11:24
Peter Bergström says:
Ninnis: Thank you! We are slowly stressing against what we have had, so it is better today. I wish you a lovely weekend.
Ann-Sofie and Lennart: There's a lot that I leave out, but on the whole it looked like this. I know that I have worked too much under stress, but I have actually done well, I think. I have a lot of experience in my backpack, so there is not much that shocks me today. Have a nice weekend you two:-)
04 November 2016 - 11:37
Peter Bergström says:
Anonymous: Wow, what a tough couple of years and thank you for sharing your story. What rifts in the family and what energy it takes every day to get everyday life together. It is these years that you have almost forgotten, because it was full of helping others. Today, you are so happy for the smallest thing when it comes to the children and if they get a job, children, yes all the things that you struggled with before become happiness. I will get to everything that happened with my youngest son later in "Happy Friday". I wish you a wonderful weekend in the house.
04 November 2016 - 11:47
Znogge says:
Children or no children is probably a question that you should be in complete agreement on before you join forces. If not, the risk is great that one of you will have to give up and it is too important a question for that. Tough is just the first name ...
Have a good weekend!
04 November 2016 - 12:35
åsa i åsele says:
Thank you for your story,
It's crazy how much you have done in your life.
Thank you for sharing.
I hope you are now taking it easy and remembering to rest and breathe, very important for your health.
04 November 2016 - 12:52
Emma, Sol som sol? says:
My life feels rather boring and "Svensson" when I read your post. But now I'm starting to think and I believe that the average person in Sweden too often has what you wrote but in other ways. Too much work, too many commitments, too little time for family and usually the reason is that there is too little money. Money for what? New gadgets? Self-realisation?
What did I do during this period of my life? The classics worked, bought a house, had children, got married - in that order.
04 November 2016 - 13:40
Emma, Sol som sol? says:
Oh, now I'm reacting to the fact that I wrote "had children". It's a gift, so it should say "had a child".
04 November 2016 - 13:41
Annika says:
Peter, what a life you have lived. No wonder your body told you off with a vengeance. I get tired of reading about everything you did, and the fact that YOU managed!!!
I find it very interesting to read about your life on Fridays. Thank you for sharing so openly.
AND yes, I am glad that a girl called Helena came into your life. Maybe that's when things calmed down a bit? I hope so.
Thanks for the post and have a nice weekend
04 November 2016 - 13:51
Peter Bergström says:
Znogge: Once you have a child, you are always a parent for life. Many people have children because they are cute and love being a toddler. I've seen many examples of parents who give up when their children are teenagers, because they can't cope. I've told my children that they should be very thoughtful about how many they want for the rest of their lives. It's fantastic but also the biggest decision we make in our lives and we should both make it together. Have a nice weekend.
Åsa in Åsele: Hi Åsa! I am still as hungry and curious about everything new. With experiences of life, I go about it in a smarter way, so it becomes more calm. Thanks for reading and have a great week.
Emma, sun like sun? Of course, everyone has to work a lot during these years with children and money is always lacking. On a salary and a sickness allowance with many children, there are always holes to fill. I lived a hectic life and ran through the years too fast and I'm glad I survived it. And then I can agree with you that having children is a gift and sometimes a difficult gift, haha. Have a nice weekend.
Annika: Haha it didn't calm down when I met her but it will. Thanks for following my crazy life. Have a super cosy Friday Annika.
04 November 2016 - 15:08
Rico says:
Hello Peter,
I am doing one of the best things I have ever done right now, you know what.
Travelling by motorhome!
I recognise a lot of what you write about on your Fridays, but not at your level, thankfully.
I had the opportunity to do this amazing journey that I am doing now. So I just want to say thank you to you and Helena's inspiration that got me going.
It's good to hear that you enjoy what you're doing today and that you can be smarter about it so you can be part of even more fun things.
Have a nice Happy Friday and we'll talk to you in the future! / Rico
04 November 2016 - 16:07
Deciree says:
Also says ... if you have gone to the wall, you know how it feels. I've tried that ... so you have to be careful that it doesn't happen to you now. But maybe you have learnt how you work now. Nice to read about your life Peter....even though it's not always a bed of roses. But life is so ... a little up and down. Nice weekend on you 2 🙂
04 November 2016 - 16:57
BP says:
So when I read this post, it strikes me that your ex-wife had to pay an incredibly high price to have a child with you. I was about to write the right thing for her, but it's probably far too horrible.
Then I also think that I am incredibly grateful that my husband and I chose not to have children. We simply didn't think we were ready to take on responsibilities beyond work. We also wanted to travel and be free. We have never regretted it. Yes, you can say that we are selfish and should be ashamed;-)
To be cheated out of half a million kronor - it must have stung a lot, the way you had slugged it out. It hurts to read, too.
Considering everything you have been through, you have certainly justified the expression "you only learn the hard way". Like some others, I think you should write a book about your life.
What did I/we do in 1991-2002? Well, these years were the most fun in my little Svensson life. Just saying - 1994: World Cup in USA irl; 1998 World Cup in France irl. 2000 EM in Holland/Belgium irl; and a lot more travelling, including to Barbados. You see egoist-Svensson enjoyed life. I still do, but in a completely different way.
PS. Would have liked to comment longer, but then it becomes a novel. I really like the way you write, especially if you read between the lines... DS.
04 November 2016 - 17:36
Ditte says:
This is really your life! What experiences, and how they affect you in different ways.
And your life has been full and will certainly continue to be so, but now perhaps in a calmer way. You have a greater opportunity to choose and you have your experiences with you.
Very interesting and exciting reading.
When I was between 31 and 41, a lot happened. I lived in New York for a year and in "Hells Kitchen" then a real slum area. hardly dared to be home alone.
We travelled around the USA by plane, car and tent. I got married. We became parents and travelled to Sri Lanka to bring our daughters home. Work, lots of travelling, studying, lots of downhill skiing, chain house and later villa.
Several difficult operations but enjoyed life and was doing well.
And the journeys we made as a family continued. Memorable times.
04 November 2016 - 18:55
Rosita says:
Phu Peter ... From 1991 to 2002 I was 15 to 26 years old - a younger age group than you. The hard school of life hit me much earlier than that, as the daughter of a travelling circus performer. But THAT is an earlier and different story. Back to 1991. At the age of 15, I watched my 17-year-old brother die of cancer in our living room. Late teens and having aged far too early in heart and head. As for most others, life also consisted of studying, friends and the mix of big, dizzying loves and a slightly broken heart. Also my first cohabitation. Started freelancing and a summer job at a local newspaper (15 years old!). The love of writing remains to this day, and is also part of my work. Moved abroad just before the age of 21 (broken cohabitation on my initiative). FAB Life abroad both emotionally and career-wise - experiences that I still benefit from as well as friends, love and work still remain in my life, almost 20 years later (well, I changed employers "recently"). PS, moved to Sthlm in autumn 2000 (same employer as abroad). From small town girl to big city girl. It was an adjustment period 😉 Finally in 2002 - heavily pregnant and I become a mum for the first time in March 2003.
Exciting to hear about your life Peter! Hugs and happy holidays to Helena!
04 November 2016 - 18:14
Matts Torebring says:
I have been through a lot, but your life beats most. I am glad that you were able to get up and move on. How many would manage to get up as you have done. Celebrate and have a nice weekend,
04 November 2016 - 20:53
Ruth i Virginia says:
Was 31 years old in 1959. Lived a good suburban life with a man I...
beloved and two cute little girls, 5 and 3. 1960 was a big year for me.
me, because I was then able to travel to Sweden for the first time since I was
travelled to America in 1951. Nine years!!! The reason we were able to make it
financially, was for the husband to participate in an international programme.
geological meeting in Scandinavia, but we were still allowed to borrow a sum from his life insurance. Flying was expensive "in those days".
In 1961 our long-awaited son arrived, and in 1962 my Mother came to visit.
I was happy with my life as a housewife ("luxury wife" my brother teased).
Unless you were black, that period was the best in the US. There were
jobs for all, schools were good, teachers and parents worked together,
family was the most important thing in life. Extra bonus for me: my husband
loved his geological job. A man who likes his job is usually a geologist.
better husband and father. Just my opinion.
I read about your life and almost shudder. That so much can happen AND
man. You brought a lot of it on yourself, but sick children and a...
badly injured wife was something you wouldn't have chosen. Surprisingly and
It's admirable that you've come through everything without being totalled.
It's so nice of you to write about what happened to you in a way that is
does not make you pessimistic. Quite the opposite. you become optimistic when
you can see how you have dealt with what life has brought. As they say:
"You play the cards you´ve been dealt."
04 November 2016 - 21:20
Peter Bergström says:
Hi Rico: great to hear from you and now I'm jealous of you. REMEMBER THAT and enjoy every minute because all of a sudden you're freezing again. We have big plans for the future because a whole new era is starting now. Many people start thinking about retirement at my age but I want to grow again and create, and I don't have ADHD but I'm damn curious about everything. I follow you via Helena and njuuuuuut. Have a good week Rico.
Deciree: It was a bit crazy and you have learnt a lot, but not everything, haha. I want to accelerate but don't really know where we are going with all the exits, but I will take care of me, and thank you for caring. For that you will go to heaven:-). Have a good weekend.
Hi BP: I know we know each other in some strange way just by writing. The thing that stuck out most in what you wrote is the feeling of happiness VM 94. Just hearing the song brings tears to my eyes, so that feeling is somewhat magical. Then you are absolutely right that I didn't want to have children and that you should NEVER feel stupid because you have chosen not to have children. Helena has done the same thing and thought it was perfect that I had older children. Everyone is different. I am talking about a secret here, that Helena has just finished writing a book that I have read, but it has not been submitted yet. We'll see how it goes and in the meantime we're digging gold in the US. Have a nice weekend.
Hi Rosita: The girl with the beautiful name and how nice that you write and share your years. I know you have had ups and downs like many of us, but your traumatic experience with your older brother makes me appreciate life all over again, and at such a young age. You also have a great story to tell about your life, and I'm glad you've moved on in an amazing way. The book on "travelling with children" and television with your daughters is really fun. Thanks for sharing and have a great family weekend. Hugs.
Haha Ditte: If there is anyone here who fits in a book, you are top three. What a lot you have done and been through. You still continue today so you must also be a JA singer? For those who do not know, when we were on our European trip in 2015, we tried to find places that Ditte had not been to. It was a mission, completely crazy, haha. and every time she writes, new places pop up all over the world. She is a walking travel blog, haha. Have a nice weekend ditte.
Hi Matts Torebring: I only got one life and I wasn't happy so had to live twice. I think it was too much but I didn't have time to do anything about it either. When you are in the squirrel wheel, you don't have time to think. The sad thing is that I have lost 10 years of my life that I did not have time to enjoy. Life is too short to sacrifice 10 years, I think, so now I have to be 90 years old to have time for everything, haha and in good health, and it's not easy. Have a nice weekend Matts.
04 November 2016 - 21:51
Peter Bergström says:
Ruth in Virginia: You put it again with little words that become big when you write them. I got my cards and I got the genes that took me forward and still see the bright side of life. Many do not and fall. I think that 1960 that you wrote about is a fantastic year because I was born then:-), now I am selfish. I know what you mean about the US flourishing then, and we had the same thing in Sweden in 1975 and onwards, (always 15 years after the US). I could get any job I wanted and there was a positivity everywhere in Sweden and everyone was happy and happy. Obviously if you are satisfied and happy at your job you are a better parent, for sure. Thank you for writing Ruth and I really appreciate it, and take care of yourself because we have many years ahead of us. Hugs.
04 November 2016 - 22:14
Cari says:
What a story. What a life.
So glad you are telling us.
My life at that time involved a wedding in 1991, first daughter born in 1992, second daughter in 1996. We live in a terraced house and are moving to a slightly larger terraced house which we are renovating. But still live so calmly when I compare.
Wishing you a nice weekend.
04 November 2016 - 22:52
Marina says:
Oh my goodness! Just reading your post made it a sweaty morning!!! No wonder at all that your body told you off eventually! For me, it was actually a very quiet period. We lived in England for a few years, our girls started school there and we had some wonderful years filled with new impressions and acquaintances. I moved back to Sweden and started reading to do "something completely different" with my life. Didn't get that far though, I just moved a few notches up in the school's stadia world, went from leisure educator to high school teacher and realised that this is what I thought was fun 🙂 .
By the way, it is very fun to read your very personal Friday posts! Have a great weekend!!!
05 November 2016 - 4:06
Peter Bergström says:
Hi cari: The path you took is probably the most common one. I could have gone that way if my first ex hadn't been so interested in other men. I wonder what my life would have been like then? My life feels predetermined so just go with it. Have a nice weekend.
Marina: Thank you Marina for liking my writing. I was given this lot in life and I make the best of the situation. If there is no happiness, I look for it because it is a great source of strength for me. You have taken it upon yourself to have a job that you enjoy, and not everyone does. As Ruth wrote "if you are happy at work, it is easier to be a happy mum and wife at home". Have a fun week and enjoy.
05 November 2016 - 10:33
nils-åke says:
Between 31-42 it was family life and work. You've had so much time, but it's incredibly interesting to read.
05 November 2016 - 10:36
Inga says:
Thank you Peter for sharing. You get so upset with people, often in the construction industry, who get rich off the backs of people. Your story really put my stressful life into perspective, how did you manage? Looking forward to next Friday already, especially as we are back "home" in Vietnam from the Cambodia trip!
05 November 2016 - 19:29
Marias Memoarer says:
Oh dear! Hope you now have a better idea of what is too much. I am probably the opposite as a person, absolutely can not handle having lots of balls in the air at the same time. Want to experience things in life, but at a relaxed pace 😉.
06 November 2016 - 3:20
Lina - The world according to AdrenaLina says:
Fascinating! Incredibly interesting to read about everything you have been through and it has really been a lot! Love lives that are rich in content but as many others have said, just take care of yourself 🙂 .
07 November 2016 - 15:15
Anna, Travel on a Cloud says:
Wow, so intense! I am reading with mixed emotions. I sympathise with you in your adversity but at the same time admire you for your fighting spirit. Then I see the humour between the lines. Maybe it's that positive attitude that has carried you through? Yes, hopefully most setbacks (but not all, of course) make you wiser and stronger. "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger." 😉
Between 1991 and 2002? Yes, briefly: In 1991 I got together with the guy who would become my husband. We had a few years of travelling, then bought a farmhouse and a villa with renovations. In 1995 we got married and then came three boys in quick succession: 1996, 1999 and 2000. Intense years here too!
Looking forward to hearing about how you met Helena.
08 November 2016 - 20:59